“It only seems as if you’re doing
something when you worry.”
Lucy Maud Montgomery (1874 – 1942)
Do you worry?
Of course you do.
Everybody worries at some time or another, it’s normal.
But I’m sure you know people who seem to do nothing but worry all the time. I used to be an excessive worrier myself.
Worry only makes you feel like you’re doing something, when the truth is it doesn’t achieve anything worthwhile.
I was talking with Ollie last night, because he didn’t seem his usual ‘happy go lucky’ self.
Eventually he told me he was worrying about going back to school next week.
So I gave him: The Talk
I thought you might find it useful, so here it is:
There are two types of worry:
- Worrying about things you CAN’T do anything about. Things like the weather, the economy, what people think about you and so on.
- Worrying about things you CAN do something about. Things like your health, your happiness, your maths skills and so on.
Next time you catch yourself worrying about something. Ask yourself what type of worry it is.
- If it’s Type 1 worry, simply throw it out. You can’t do anything about it so smile from your heart and get on with your life.
- If it’s Type 2 worry, stop worrying and get busy working on a solution. Because the antidote to Type 2 worry is action.
So for Ollie this means we’re going to be doing two 30 minute maths slots between now and school starting so he can get back in the saddle with his maths.
What action do you need to take to solve your Type 2 worry?
In the early days of my obsessive worrying I found it helped to write tips like this down on a small blank postcard and carry them around in my pocket.
Each morning I’d read these short notes and doing so meant I was actually able to use and apply them.
You see, I know I’m not unique. I’ve lost track of the number of times I’ve read something and thought:
“Yeah, that’s really helpful advice.”
And then done nothing about it, forgotten it and continued to suffer.
So if you think this ‘Two Types of Worry’ tip could be of benefit to you, I highly recommend that you write something like this down on a post-it, blank postcard, scrap of paper, notebook, whatever you have available:
“There are two types of worry. Type 1 is stuff I can’t do anything about. Type 2 is stuff I can do something about. Ditch Type 1 and get busy taking action on Type 2.”
Just write whatever will help you remember Type 1 and Type 2.
Then remind yourself of it regularly.
That’s the only way it can be of benefit to you when you need it most.
I cover more techniques, strategies and tools for overcoming worry on page 118 of my book: Smiling From The Heart.
In fact, the whole of Part 5 – Specific Strategies, will help you to understand and then give you a host of tools to help you overcome the following major causes of emotional illness:
- Stress – p.105
- Depression – p.114
- Worry – p.118
- Fear – p.121
- Low self esteem – p.128
- Lack of confidence – p.133
Look, the ‘solutions’ to most of the emotional problems you encounter are simple. If any of the above are keeping your life small or causing you pain I’d like to help.
So, if you haven’t got a copy of Smiling From The Heart yet, you can get an instantly downloadable Pdf copy here:
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- Download a welcome letter from me.
- Download your copy of Smiling From The Heart.
- And most importantly, you’ll also get the email address you can write to me if you need help putting the material in Smiling From The Heart to work in your life.
What happens next is up to you.
You can either leave this email and hope some of it sticks, or you can take action on it and be certain it will stick.
I’ll leave that with you.
Have a wonderful weekend and I’ll catch up with you again on Monday.